My most enduring memory of Aunty Lourdes was when my grandmother's passed away. She brought the largest tin of coffee I've ever seen and said "You'll have lots of visitors, you'll be glad of this." She was right, we were. I also remember her tightly hugging me and my sisters on the day of the funeral, saying "It will get better with time." She was right about that too. I'll always be grateful for her practical help and understanding of our confusion and sorrow as children as this first family funeral. RIP Aunty Lourdes.